The Sabrina Zohar Show Season 3, Episode 13: Why You Want Who Doesn’t Want You: The Neuroscience of Obsession

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New Year, Same Bull**t: How To *Actually* Grow This Year

In the first episode of 2025, Sabrina dives into building sustainable habits and creating meaningful change, challenging the expectation of becoming a brand-new person on January 1st. She reflects on her own experiences, including a tough New Year’s moment when she reverted to old patterns, illustrating how our brains resist change to maintain safety and familiarity.

39 min

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How to Stop Holding Yourself Back & Become Your Future Self with Mimi Bouchard

Discover how to transform your mindset and unlock personal growth in this empowering conversation with Sabrina and Mimi Bouchard. Mimi opens up about her journey from scarcity and self-doubt to self-love and abundance, sharing actionable tools and strategies to reprogram your mind and embrace a new self-image. Mimi explains how her app and activations, which combine affirmations with music, help people shift their energy and overcome limiting beliefs. Sabrina resonates deeply with Mimi’s message about the role of belief in manifestation and the importance of getting clear on how you want to feel. Sabrina and Mimi emphasize that to achieve your goals, you must focus on your energy and core beliefs, as they shape the reality you attract—especially in areas like dating.

58 min

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In The Trenches: Why Do They Ghost? How Long Should You Wait for Love to Grow?

Tired of getting ghosted? Unsure how to navigate your situationship without losing your mind? Welcome to the new bonus series, "In The Trenches," where Sabrina and guests break down real-life dating dilemmas and relationship dynamics in a lighter, community-driven format. This series is all about addressing your burning questions and helping you make sense of modern dating chaos. In this debut episode with Tech Guy (Ryan), Sabrina highlights the pivotal role of curiosity and open communication in managing anxiety and understanding a partner’s behavior, particularly when navigating concepts like "going slow." Ryan complements this by emphasizing the importance of providing space and avoiding defensive reactions, especially when engaging with avoidant individuals. Together, they unpack how recognizing and addressing personal triggers can lead to mature and constructive dialogue, fostering healthier relationships.

42 min

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The Power of Boundaries and Self-Respect with Jillian Turecki

Want to know if you should stay or walk away from a relationship? In this weeks episode, Sabrina Zohar welcomes relationship expert and author Jillian Turecki for a raw and honest conversation about love, relationships, and knowing when to stay or walk away. Jillian shares her personal journey through a difficult marriage and divorce, which ultimately led her to become obsessed with understanding what makes relationships truly work. Through her vulnerability, she reveals how her own experience of receiving a divorce text while having a miscarriage and losing her mother became the catalyst for her transformation and expertise in helping others navigate their relationship journeys.

49 min

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Why You Keep Losing Yourself in Relationships (And How to Finally Stop)

Consistently feeling like you lose yourself in a relationship? In this powerful solo episode, Sabrina dives deep into one of the most common dating challenges: how to stay true to yourself while dating and in relationships. Through vulnerable personal stories, including her own journey from people-pleasing to authenticity, Sabrina explores why we often lose ourselves in relationships and provides practical tools to maintain our sense of self while building meaningful connections.

46 min

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Why 'No Contact' Is So Important & How to Finally Move On With Kendra Allen

Why is it so damn hard to stop thinking about an ex? In this episode, Sabrina sits down with breakup coach Kendra Allen to get real about the obsessive thoughts, shame, and emotional spirals that keep you stuck. They break down why no contact isn’t just a rule—it’s a lifeline for breaking toxic thought loops and reducing anxiety.

50 min

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Are You Attached or Actually Connected? The Dating Trap You Don’t See Coming

Ever found yourself obsessing over someone who’s hot and cold, questioning every text, and feeling anxious when they pull away? That’s not connection—it’s attachment. In this episode Sabrina breaks down the key differences between attachment and genuine connection in dating. You’ll learn why attachment is rooted in fear and the need for validation, while real connection thrives on authenticity and emotional safety. Discover how inconsistent communication triggers dopamine-driven obsession, and why the people who leave you spiraling aren’t the ones you’re truly connected to.

36 min

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How To Date Intentionally and Find a Healthy Relationship with Ali Jackson

Ever found yourself obsessing over someone who doesn’t make you feel secure? Struggling with long-distance dynamics or wondering if you’re stuck in limerence? This episode is your reality check. Sabrina sits down with the unapologetically honest Ali Jackson, creator of @findingmrheight, to answer YOUR burning questions straight from the trenches. From navigating long-distance situationships to decoding mixed signals and handling the dreaded “I’m not ready for a relationship” talk, we’re cutting through the noise with raw, unfiltered advice.

49 min

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Why Healthy Love Can Feel Boring: Exploring Secure Relationships

Ever found yourself attracted to chaos in relationships while feeling "meh" about someone who's actually good for you? In this Valentine's Day special, Sabrina dives deep into why we often mistake drama for passion and peace for boredom. She shares personal stories, including her own journey from choosing unavailable partners to embracing healthy love, and explains the neuroscience behind why stable relationships can feel uncomfortably "boring" at first.

35 min

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Anxious vs. Avoidant: Breaking the Toxic Push-Pull Cycle in Love With Jimmy Knowles

If you’ve ever felt like you’re too much in a relationship while your partner seems emotionally unavailable, you’re not alone. The anxious-avoidant dynamic is one of the most common (and frustrating) relationship patterns—but is it doomed, or can it actually work? In this episode, Jimmy Knowles joins Sabrina Zohar to break down the push-pull dynamic between anxious and avoidant partners. Both Jimmy and Sabrina lean anxious, while their partners are avoidant—so they get the struggles firsthand.

51 min

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How to Stop Obsessing Over Someone Who’s Not That Into You

Why do we obsess over people who give us nothing? Why does unavailability make someone more attractive? And how do you break free from this cycle for good? In this solo episode, Sabrina Zohar dives deep into limerence—the psychological trap that keeps you fixated on the wrong people. But this isn't just about dopamine and attachment theory; this episode goes further.

36 min

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How To Set Boundaries Without Feeling Guilty or Pushing People Away with Terri Cole

Welcome back, babes! In today’s episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, I’m joined by the one and only Terri Cole, licensed psychotherapist, author of Boundary Boss, and expert on all things boundaries, people-pleasing, and codependency. We’re breaking down what boundaries actually are (and what they aren’t), why so many people get them wrong, and how to set them without guilt. Terri also shares her personal journey of leaving the entertainment industry to follow her passion for psychology, plus practical tools to help you stop self-abandoning, start advocating for yourself, and build stronger, healthier relationships.

53 min

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Why You Want Who Doesn’t Want You: The Neuroscience of Obsession

Why do we chase people who don’t choose us? In this episode, I sit down with neuroscientist Nicole Vignola to break down the hardwired brain patterns that fuel obsession, the dopamine loops that keep you stuck, and why rejection hits so hard. We dig into the psychology of why familiar chaos feels like love, how your brain mistakes unpredictability for attraction, and the exact steps to break the cycle for good.

14 min

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Why Men REALLY Pull Away—The Truth No One Tells You with Connell Barrett

Ever feel like dating is one giant guessing game? You meet a guy, everything’s great—until suddenly, he's pulling away. Or maybe you keep hearing, "You're amazing, but I just don't feel the spark." What the hell is actually going on in their heads? In this episode, I sit down with Connell Barrett, a men’s dating coach who’s been in the trenches himself. We’re cutting through the bullshit and getting into why men struggle with dating, what makes them lose interest, and what actually makes them want to stay. If you've ever felt like you're doing everything "right" but still hitting a wall, this one's for you.

66 min

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How to Stop Overreacting in Relationships and Improve Emotional Intelligence

Ever wondered how emotional intelligence can transform your relationships? Join Sabrina as she unravels the complexities of emotional intelligence, how it manifests in our connections, and why it is a game-changer. In this enlightening episode, Sabrina not only defines emotional intelligence but also provides concrete tools and techniques to help you strengthen your emotional connections and self-awareness. With anecdotes and practical advice, this episode is a treasure trove for anyone looking to enhance their relational dynamics.

43 min

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How to Know If They're Serious About You With Francesca Tighinean

Ever found yourself overanalyzing texts, questioning someone’s interest, or feeling stuck in a cycle of mixed signals? In this episode, I sit down with Francesca, a coach with a background in psychology, to break down the real signs of attraction vs. manipulation. We’re diving into love bombing, future faking, and the subtle body language cues that reveal whether someone is genuinely interested—or just keeping you around for their own validation.

51 min

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Why You Keep Attracting Emotionally Unavailable People

What if the emotionally unavailable people you keep dating are actually holding up a mirror to you? In this raw and unfiltered episode, Sabrina peels back the layers on emotional availability—what it really means, why you keep attracting partners who can’t meet you there, and how your own patterns might be keeping you stuck in the cycle. With personal stories, bold insights, and a no-BS look at emotional intelligence, she dives deep into the difference between true vulnerability and emotional oversharing, and why safety in connection starts with you.

39 min

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Resentment, Expectations, and Unmet Needs: The Three Relationship Killers With Dr. Morgan Cutlip

n this episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, psychologist and author Dr. Morgan Cutlip joins Sabrina to unpack the three silent relationship killers that derail connection: resentment, unmet needs, and unrealistic expectations. Whether you’re single, dating, or married with kids, this conversation dives into how these patterns sneak in, how to name them before they take over, and how to build emotional safety without losing your voice. From the belief that “they should just know” to the fear of being too much, Dr. Morgan and Sabrina explore how communication, vulnerability, and clear needs are the foundation of sustainable intimacy.

56 min

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How to Respond Instead of React in Relationships (Even When You're Triggered)

Ever feel like one tiny argument spirals into a full-blown meltdown—and you don’t even remember what started it? In this raw and transformative solo episode, Sabrina Zohar dives deep into the psychology and neuroscience of reactivity, conflict, and emotional regulation. Using personal stories, real client insights, and powerful research-backed tools, she breaks down how childhood programming wires us for knee-jerk reactions—and how to break the cycle. Whether you're anxious, avoidant, or somewhere in between, you'll walk away with practical ways to pause, process, and respond without losing yourself in the heat of the moment.

37 min

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Dating or Delusion? What to Do When It’s Not Moving Forward

He says “you deserve better,” but you're still hoping he’ll change? In today’s episode, we’re calling out the real reason you can’t let go — even when the relationship isn’t progressing. From long-distance love that’s all memes and no meaning, to two years of exclusivity with zero commitment, we’re diving into the dating dynamics that keep you stuck, confused, and emotionally drained. If you’ve ever felt like you’re “kind of” dating someone who gives you just enough to stay — this episode is your wake-up call.

53 min

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4 Brutal Truths About Dating & Relationships (That No One Wants to Admit)

Think you're ready for a healthy relationship? Think again. In this raw solo episode, Sabrina breaks down the four uncomfortable but necessary truths about dating and relationships that most people avoid. From why you might not actually be ready for the love you say you want, to how your nervous system may be confusing chaos with chemistry, this episode is a call-out and a wake-up. With research-backed insights (yes, we’re talking the salience network and the Dunning-Kruger effect), you'll learn why timing, emotional maturity, and attraction blindness play a bigger role than you think—and why doing “everything right” still won’t guarantee you don’t get hurt.

36 min

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What To Do When You're Anxious In Dating

Why do you keep spiraling after a date that seemed perfect? Why does your chest tighten when they don’t text back? It’s not just anxiety—it’s your nervous system sounding the alarm. In this eye-opening episode, Sabrina sits down with nervous system educator Jessica Maguire to explore the hidden physiological patterns driving anxious thoughts, emotional dysregulation, and the urge to chase emotionally unavailable partners.

55 min

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I Used to Be A Hot Mess... And What I Did To Change It

What if the reason you’re spiraling after a text, chasing validation, or attaching to people who barely know you… isn’t about them at all? In this vulnerable solo-meets-guest episode, Sabrina opens up about how her anxious attachment shaped over a decade of dating—texting obsessively, abandoning her needs, and mistaking chemistry for connection. For the second part, her mom joins the conversation to share what it was like to witness that spiral from the outside.

52 min

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Why You’re Obsessed with People Who Hurt You (And How to Finally Stop)

What if the reason we can't seem to stop thinking about a person is because of our brain? Your brain is wired to form connections. Nicole Vignola joins me to talk about how reworking our emotional connections can rewire our brain and help us break through these cycles of obsession.

56 min

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Dating Nightmares & Advice with Nicole Byer

Comedian Nicole Byer joins me to answer all your questions about dating, situationships, FWB, and more. We share some of our wildest dating stories as we answer listener questions about long distance dating, setting boundaries and how you can tell when he's really just not that into you.

41 min

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Why You Keep Settling (and How to Finally Choose Yourself)

Are you accepting the bare minimum from your partner, or are you truly growing together? In this episode, I break down the difference between settling and authentic happiness in your relationships, using neuroscience and psychology to explain why your brain might keep you stuck in unhealthy patterns.

33 min

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How BPD Impacts your Relationships with Neuropsychotherapist Britt Frank

In this episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, therapist and author Britt Frank joins Sabrina for a candid conversation about BPD, misdiagnosis, parts work, and the real roots of emotional patterns. Learn how to work with your inner critic, practice self-love, and use practical tools to heal your nervous system and break free from self-sabotage.

54 min

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Stop Obsessing: How to Enjoy Dating Without Stressing About the Future

Unlock the secret to enjoying dating and relationships without obsessing over the outcome! In this episode, Sabrina Zohar dives deep into why we cling to control, how attachment styles shape our dating patterns, and practical steps to finally let go and find peace—whether you’re single or partnered. Discover how to pause, self-regulate, and stop spiraling, so you can show up authentically and attract the right connections.

40 min

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How to have AUTHENTIC Self Love and Date Yourself

How do you know if you're truly loving your self? Today, we're diving deep into what self love actually means - when to know when you're choosing your partner, a parent or someone else over your own emotions. In this video, Sabrina defines self love and the tools you can use to break out of toxic patterns.

35 min

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In The Trenches: Is He Into You? Or Killing Time? Answering Your Questions!

Is he truly interested, or are you just a placeholder? In this solo episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina dives deep into your most pressing relationship questions—covering everything from masculine vs. feminine energy, handling the aftermath of a first date, healing anxious attachment, moving on from heartbreak, and spotting red flags in modern dating. Drawing from both her personal journey and expertise as a relationship coach, Sabrina offers honest, relatable advice to help you navigate the complexities of dating and self-growth.

37 min

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How to Let Go of External Validation and Thrive While Single

Struggling with people-pleasing or feeling anxious about how others perceive you? In this episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina dives deep into how to let go of external validation and truly thrive while single. Whether you’re navigating dating, healing from past relationships, or simply want to build stronger self-worth, this video is packed with actionable tools, neuroscience insights, and real-life stories that will help you break free from approval-seeking and self-abandonment.

33 min

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Why Your Conversations Fail and How to Fix Them with Charles Duhigg

Join Sabrina Zohar and Charles Duhigg — a Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist, bestselling author of The Power of Habit and Supercommunicators, and current writer for The New Yorker — as they break down the communication skills vital for building better relationships. In this episode, they explore essential tools for effective communication, including how to listen actively and how to distinguish between emotional and practical conversations. Discover how mastering these skills can transform not just your romantic life, but also your friendships, family interactions, and professional relationships.

54 min

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Why Friendships Can Be Harder Than Romantic Relationships

Unlock the truth about friendship breakups and why platonic relationships can be even more complicated—and heartbreaking—than romantic ones. In this candid episode of the Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina dives deep into the realities of navigating adult friendships: from the pain of losing a best friend to the anxiety of making new connections, setting boundaries, and healing old wounds.

42 min

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What Is Avoidant Attachment and How It Shows Up in Dating and Relationships?

Sabrina breaks down the realities of dating someone with avoidant attachment, debunks common myths, and shares practical tools to foster genuine connection. Whether you’re struggling to understand an avoidant partner or want to improve your own relationship skills, this video offers expert advice and actionable steps for deeper intimacy and trust.

42 min

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What Is Anxious Attachment and How It Shows Up in Dating and Relationships?

Attachment Styles 101 Series Struggling with constant overthinking in relationships? Sabrina explores anxious attachment with a focus on neuroscience and real healing. Learn why your brain reacts to silence as danger and how protest behaviors keep you stuck in cycles of anxiety. This episode reveals practical tools to rewire your nervous system, reparent your inner child, and move toward secure connections.

35 min

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In The Trenches: The BRUTAL Truth About What You Deserve in Love

In this episode of "In the Trenches", Sabrina opens up about the reality of navigating toxic relationships and the importance of setting boundaries. She tackles your tough relationship questions, offering guidance on how to cope with feelings of insecurity and fear, and how to reclaim your self-worth. Sabrina shares her candid thoughts on what it truly means to love yourself, and why you should never settle for anything less than respect. She also does an audit of one of your dating profiles and gives her thoughts on how to stand out in the dating app world. If you've ever felt confused or lost in a relationship, this episode will provide the clarity you need to make empowered decisions.

38 min

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What Healing REALLY Looks Like with Dr. Richard Schwartz

What if the key to healing is understanding the different parts of yourself? Sabrina Zohar is joined by Dr. Richard Schwartz, the creator of Internal Family Systems (IFS), to explore how IFS therapy can lead to profound emotional healing. In this video, Sabrina shares her own healing journey, confronting her inner critic, navigating trauma, and embracing personal growth. Together, they reveal how understanding and healing your inner parts can help you find true inner peace and self-compassion.

58 min

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What Is Disorganized Attachment and How It Shows Up in Dating and Relationships

Sabrina dives deep into the most misunderstood style — disorganized attachment (a.k.a. fearful avoidant). If you’ve ever craved love but ran from it the second it got real, or found yourself in push-pull dynamics that feel more like emotional whiplash than romance, this episode is for you. Sabrina unpacks the neuroscience, psychology, and survival roots of disorganized attachment — and gives you tools to break free. Plus, she explains how to spot it early, how to navigate it in relationships, and what healing really looks like.

39 min

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What Is Secure Attachment and How It Shows Up in Dating and Relationships

In the final episode of the Attachement Styles 101 series, we dive deep into the truth about secure attachment and how it plays a pivotal role in building resilient, healthy relationships. Sabrina Zohar breaks down the myths surrounding secure attachment, explaining why it’s not about being perfect or emotionless. Instead, it's about learning emotional regulation and bouncing back after challenges. Whether you’re just starting the journey or already on your path to emotional security, Sabrina gives actionable steps to start building a secure attachment style, including how to handle triggers and navigate relationship conflicts with resilience. Tune in to learn how you can build lasting emotional strength and trust in your relationships.

48 min

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What You NEED to Know About FWB, Being Friends with An Ex, and Dating a Friend

Sabrina explores the complexities of non-platonic friendships, diving into the truth behind friends with benefits, situationships, and the challenges of dating a close friend. Sabrina shares her personal experiences, backed by research and psychology, to give you practical advice on navigating these relationship dynamics. Tune in to learn how to navigate these complex relationships with confidence and clarity.

47 min

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In The Trenches: Why Won't They Let You In? REAL Avoidant Attachment Truths

Sabrina sits down with Tom Stroud from Love is Blind UK to talk about the avoidant attachment style, modern dating struggles, and relationship dynamics from both male and female perspectives. They discuss the myth behind “If he wanted to, he would,” how avoidance manifests in relationships, and practical advice for handling emotional availability and communication challenges. Sabrina and Tom also answer your questions about navigating distance in relationships, understanding emotional chemistry, and the difference between healthy pacing and avoidance.

60 min

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When Your Partner Shuts Down Emotionally, DO THIS!

Sabrina dives deep into one of the toughest relationship struggles, emotional shutdowns. She breaks down how to recognize silent treatment and stonewalling, why it happens, and how to reclaim your power when you're left emotionally abandoned. Learn how to set boundaries and communicate your needs without enabling unhealthy patterns.

36 min

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Why You Obsess Over Your Ex & How to Stop

Why does heartbreak feel like the end of the world while your ex seems fine? In this episode, Sabrina Zohar breaks down the neuroscience of heartbreak, explaining why your brain gets stuck on your ex, why nothing feels enjoyable anymore, and why closure is a myth. You’ll learn the three brain systems that keep you looping, along with practical tools to rewire your mind, stop obsessing, and finally move forward.

36 min

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The TRUTH About the Slow Burn of Dating

Are they genuinely taking things slow or just stringing you along? In this episode, Sabrina Zohar breaks down how to tell the difference between healthy pacing and someone wasting your time. You’ll learn why consistency matters, what science says about early relationship timelines, and the red flags of stagnation. Sabrina also shares personal stories, practical scripts for communicating boundaries, and tools to stop overanalyzing and start trusting yourself. If you’re tired of the "go with the flow" trap, this video gives you clarity and confidence in dating.

39 min

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How to Rewire Your Core Beliefs & Attract Healthy Love

Part 1 of The Self-Esteem Series Do you ever feel unlovable, undeserving of good love, or just “too much”? These aren’t facts, they’re core beliefs running the show. In Episode 1 of a 5-part Self Esteem Series, Sabrina Zohar explains how these beliefs form, why your brain clings to rejection, and how to reframe the stories you tell yourself. You’ll learn practical tools to reparent yourself, release old programming, and finally step into the love you’re worthy of.

35 min

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In The Trenches: Why You Keep "Sabotaging" Love Without Realizing It

Are you actually seeing red flags, or are your insecurities making you spiral? In this week's episode of In the Trenches, Sabrina Zohar unpacks why so many of us sabotage good relationships by searching for problems that aren’t there. You’ll learn how timing and distance can trigger feelings of abandonment, what it really means when you feel ‘not enough,’ and how to tell the difference between your intuition and old fears. Sabrina also shares personal stories, practical tools for calming anxiety, and thoughts on having honest conversations about your needs. If you’re tired of second-guessing love and want to start showing up with confidence, this video will give you clarity, compassion, and a reminder that you are already enough.

39 min

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Why You Overthink Love and Assume the Worst

Part 2 of The Self-Esteem Series Why do you spiral when a text takes too long, when someone says “okay” instead of “okay!” or when plans change? That’s your brain writing rejection stories to protect you. The problem? Those stories create anxiety, sabotage connection, and keep you stuck.

35 min

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The Power of Detachment with Sabrina Bendory

Detachment isn’t about being cold or not caring. It’s about knowing your worth and letting go of outcomes you can’t control. In this episode, Sabrina Zohar and guest Sabrina Bendory break down what healthy detachment really looks like, why obsession is just a story you tell yourself, and how to self-source your worth instead of outsourcing it. If you’re tired of spiraling over texts or feeling stuck on someone who isn’t right for you, this conversation gives you the tools to finally reclaim your power.

60 min

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The Psychology Behind Black-and-White Thinking

Part 3 of the Self Esteem Series Sabrina explores the faulty thinking patterns that often sabotage relationships like black and white logic, catastrophizing, and filtering. With personal stories like the “Prison Bae” and escapism, she highlights how our brains crave shortcuts that often lead to distorted conclusions. Sabrina explains the science behind cognitive errors and why we mistake possible for probable. She also shares practical tools to reality check anxious thoughts and find balance. Listeners will learn how to challenge confirmation bias, recognize self sabotage, and stop letting anxiety control their relationships.

35 min

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Overexplaining, Overthinking, Overtexting? Here’s Why

Part 4 of The Self-Esteem Series Sabrina Zohar dives deep into the emotional patterns that sabotage relationships, specifically protest behavior. She explains how certain behaviors like excessive texting, withdrawal, and people-pleasing are often unconscious responses to fear of abandonment or disconnection. Sabrina shares raw personal stories and offers insights on how to break these patterns, set healthy boundaries, and foster genuine connection. If you've ever found yourself trapped in a cycle of emotional escalation, over-explaining, or testing your partner's commitment, this episode is for you. Tune in to understand why these behaviors emerge and how you can move toward healthier, more secure relationships.

45 min

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How to Break Your Unhealthy Dating & Relationship Patterns

Part 5 of The Self-Esteem Series Sabrina Zohar unpacks the psychology and neuroscience behind why change feels so hard and how your brain is wired to keep you stuck. She explains the resistance mechanisms that make transformation uncomfortable and shares science-backed tools for creating real, lasting change. Sabrina dives into why motivation is a myth, why identity resists growth, and how small, consistent actions can rewire your self-concept. You’ll also learn about homeostasis, mirror neurons, and how your environment shapes your progress. If you’ve ever wondered why you know what to do but still can’t seem to do it, this episode will help you bridge the gap between awareness and action.

37 min

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In The Trenches: Stop Chasing Emotionally Unavailable People

Sabrina Zohar tackles some of your toughest dating dilemmas. We dive into a listener's story about a man who re-entered her life only to pull away again, and Sabrina breaks down exactly why we chase "unfinished business" and emotionally unavailable partners. She also offers advice on when to fight for a connection and when to choose yourself.

41 min

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Why Your Body Can't Just Calm Down: The Science of Anxiety ft. Dr. Sara Szal

Sabrina Zohar sits down with Dr. Sara Szal to uncover the hidden physical roots of anxiety. From hormones and gut health to mold, blood sugar, and cortisol, they break down how your body can fuel emotional chaos even when your life feels “fine.” Sabrina opens up about her own misdiagnosis journey, being told her anxiety was just mental before discovering deeper physiological causes. Together, they explore how the nervous system, hormones, and environment intertwine, and how healing often starts in the body, not the mind.

59 min

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Why You Spiral When They Don’t Text Back

Sabrina breaks down what your texting patterns reveal about your attachment style and emotional triggers in dating and relationships. Through her own past text exchanges, she shares how anxious thoughts, people-pleasing, and over-explaining once shaped her dating behavior, and how she learned to regulate her emotions instead of spiraling when someone didn’t respond. Sabrina explores how rejection, ghosting, and unmet expectations often trace back to deeper wounds around self-worth and safety.

41 min

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Why Do You Feel Like You're Always Struggling

In this vulnerable and science-backed episode, Sabrina Zohar reveals a universal truth: everyone is struggling, and the people who seem to have it all figured out are just better at hiding it. She dismantles toxic positivity, explaining why fighting your emotions makes things worse and how acceptance can reduce their intensity by 50%.

39 min

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Is It Your Intuition or Anxiety? How to Tell the Difference & Trust Your Gut

Sabrina breaks down how attachment wounds can disguise themselves as “gut feelings” and why instinct often gets drowned out by anxious urgency. Sabrina walks through real examples as she uncovers how familiar patterns can trick your nervous system into calling danger “love,” and unpacks how old trauma keeps you choosing pain over safety. Sabrina shares the tools she uses to slow the spiral, track the truth, and retrain her intuition so it actually protects her instead of sabotaging her.

37 min

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In The Trenches: Why You Create Stories in Your Head (and How to Stop)

We’re back in the trenches. This episode, Ryan joins Sabrina in the studio to unpack YOUR questions including “Are We Dating the Same Guy?” Facebook groups to what happens when your nervous system won’t let you relax in a healthy relationship. They talk about what it actually means to trust yourself, why so many of us self-sabotage when things feel good, and how to stop creating stories in your head every time they don’t text you back for a day.

56 min

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Why Your Brain Won’t Let You Move On

Sabrina dives deep into the cycle of self-blame and shame, exploring why your brain keeps holding onto guilt, even when you logically know it’s not your fault. She uncovers the neuroscience behind how blame and shame get wired into your brain and explains how to break free from this harmful loop.

31 min

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Four Ways Shame Turns Love Into Fear of Rejection

Sabrina explores the impact of shame on relationships and self-worth. She explains how shame rewires the brain, making us expect and even create rejection. Sabrina breaks down patterns like rejecting compliments and attracting emotionally unavailable people, while offering practical tools to release shame and rewire the nervous system.

37 min

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How To Stop Ruminating And The 'What Ifs"

Part 1 of The Clarity Series. Getting over someone feels impossible when your mind keeps replaying the same moments on a loop. In this episode, Sabrina breaks down the difference between genuine emotional processing and rumination, explaining why your brain clings to old stories and how to finally create real movement instead of spiraling. If you’re tired of feeling stuck in your thoughts or carrying heartbreak into a new year, this episode is your reset point.

44 min

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Do They Always Come Back?

Part 2 of The Clarity Series. This episode breaks down why waiting for someone to come back feels so intoxicating — and why it keeps you stuck. We unpack the psychology behind ambiguous loss, ego-driven attachment, the fantasy loops your brain clings to, and the deeper wounds waiting protects you from. If you’re torn between “I hope they come back” and “God, I hope they don’t,” this will give you clarity you’ve never had.

37 min

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In The Trenches: Mixed Signals, Friendzones, and Breadcrumbs

We dig into the psychology of mixed signals, friendzones, breadcrumbing, and almost-relationships. From slow-burn connections that feel safe but confusing to flirty “friends” who keep you close for validation, we break down how to tell the difference between a secure slow build and self-friend-zoning. You’ll learn why some people want your emotional support without offering real intimacy, how to stop filling in the blanks with fantasy, and what mixed messages actually reveal about someone’s intentions.

40 min

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What's Actually Happening In An Avoidant's Brain When They Pull Away W/ Chris Lee

Neuroscientist Chris Lee joins me to break down what’s really happening in the brain when someone pulls away, shuts down, or spirals. We cover avoidance as a regulation strategy, why anxious activation hits so hard, and how state–story–strategy explains your patterns better than any TikTok soundbite. If you struggle with mixed signals, overthinking, or reacting fast in dating, this episode gives you clear, science-backed answers.

56 min

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Do You Need To Be Fully Healed To Date Again?

Part 3 of 4 in the Clarity Series. Do you need to be fully healed before you can have a healthy relationship? Sabrina dismantles one of the biggest myths in dating and personal growth: that you must be perfect, secure, or “done healing” before you’re worthy of love. Drawing from attachment theory, nervous system regulation, and real-life dating dynamics, she explains why so many people feel fine when they’re single but get triggered the moment they start dating and why that doesn’t mean you’ve failed your healing journey.

34 min

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Situationships, 'Going With The Flow', and Why You're Still Single

Part 4 of 4 in the Clarity Series. What does “going with the flow” actually mean in dating, and why does it so often lead to situationships, resentment, and self-abandonment? Sabrina breaks down how passivity, fear of asking for more, and chasing chemistry over availability keep people stuck in almost-relationships. This episode explores the psychological and nervous system reasons we suppress our needs, tolerate ambiguity, and confuse flexibility with emotional safety.

39 min